One of the deadly thought diseases of the middle class mindset is what I call Either/Or syndrome. This is the belief (usually programmed into us as children and reinforced in academia) that says you cannot have your cake and eat it, too. Of course sometimes this is true, which reinforces the global belief that it’s ‘always true’. World class thinkers start with the assumption they can have it all, and it often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Since mental toughness is about critical thinking, this demands all possibilities be considered in the belief development process. Is it possible to be financially independent and still have a great family life? Is it possible to enjoy the foods you eat and still be thin and healthy? Is it possible to take risks and still have peace of mind? The questions surrounding either/or syndrome are endless, and the results of adopting the habit of questioning yourself can be life changing. The most important critical thinking question to consider when falling into the either/or syndrome trap is; “Am I sure I can’t have both?” I’ll look forward to your comments. Steve Siebold, CSP, CPCS ( 6:51 )
Author and Professional Speaker since 1997. Past Chairman of the National Speakers Association's Million Dollar Speakers Group. Author of 11 books with 1.4 million copies in print.