The most debilitating addiction is not booze, drugs or sex. It’s the addiction to the approval of other people. The reality is that few people care about what we do, whom we marry or which profession we pursue. They’re busy enough worrying about their own problems to invest any meaningful amount of time judging ours. Yet in 30+ years of building businesses, delivering speeches, writing books and coaching people in psychological performance, I’ve found the primary obstacle people face is an obscure obsession with being liked, loved and respected by others, some of whom they don’t know or even like. The good news is that once the need for approval is reduced to a preference, everything changes. The chains of emotional bondage are broken, and the performer becomes unstoppable. This is the gateway to what Ayn Rand described as living an “Unrestricted Existence.” Watch this short video for more on this condition and how to transcend it.

Steve Siebold
Author and Professional Speaker since 1997. Past Chairman of the National Speakers Association's Million Dollar Speakers Group. Author of 11 books with 1.4 million copies in print.

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  1. I agree with this post and I’d like to share a quote by Theodore Roosevelt. A long quotation, but a good one:

    “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

    ? Theodore Roosevelt

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