May
31

What’s Your Mental Toughness Score?

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World-class performers succeed because they are fearless most of time. How about you? On a scale of 1-7, 7 being best, how fearless are you? (most of the time)  Are you moving toward what you want or away from what you don’t want? Watch this short video I shot in Manhattan this morning and give yourself an objective rating. I’ll look forward to your comments.  Steve Siebold  (2:50)

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Comments

  1. alan says:

    From now I will face my fears. I will take them on and challenge myself. I want to be a 7 at everything i do.

  2. Eli says:

    Hi Steve,

    Thanks for your blogs and your views. I am 45 years old next week and with 21 years as a teacher. Ambition, goals, life, home, health, family and…happiness? or Comfort, routine, average living, bills, daily expectations? Was I blinded by my own ambition to succeed at something or feel worthy of becoming a “productive citizen in society”? What does that mean? As a teacher, that was our mantra. To educate kids to become productive “citizens” of our society. A citizen of what, who and where? Governmental slavery? Media slavery? Technological slavery? You name it and there it is. If feels like a whiney baby nagging and begging without knowing exactly what he wants. His mother gives him a bottle to drink or a lollipop to stick in his mouth to satisfy his immediate needs. and keep him quite while life moves on. Have our parents done that to us? Are we as second generation parents doing it to our kids? And will our kids who will be third generation, do it to their kids? Access, access, access, without thought or effort, drive or inspiration. “Just stay on the path and don’t deviate, don’t fail, don’t make mistakes, it will cost you dearly, work hard and you will be rewarded, save for your retirement, be frugal, blah, blah, blah.” Yes, I understand financial responsibility and tending to family and security, but that being said, I can’t help but feel like a clone in this world, or a product being manufactured in an assembly line. That folks, or am I just going through my mid-life crisis? Lol. I am literally pacing around the house gathering steam and want to jump out of my skin to push forward through fear and apprehension, reluctancy and second thinking, remorse and dismay about myself. I need change, I want change, I want success, not only for myself but for my family and for everyone around me to break out of their shell of mediocracy and “controlled” thinking. Says who? Why? No?…powerfull statements, that if you shout them out loud, you will get a knock on the door to shut you up! “Shhh, don’t say theses things tool loud.” Your mental toughness score really strikes a nerve and throws a wrench in the gears of complacency, routine and average thinking! I am not a tiger at 7, I have not been directed towards that path. I am afraid that there is no Mental Toughness University in public schooling or university classrooms for youth to grab a hold of this concept. Your MT score taunts and angers me because I am angry with myself. I don’t think I am a meowy kitten at 1 either but our thought processes could easily push us back to 1 anytime things get too “tough” and we crawl back to our shell. “It’s too difficult, I need someone to do it for me”, then I will be alright. This statement could be easily heard across America. I don’t want to be a 1, a 2, 3, etc. Your motivation and inspiration should to put us all at 7, then break that barrier to the unknown beyond that, if we just have faith. A leap of faith, faith and strength in ourselves and faith in our maker. Is it painful? Maybe, for some, most or all? Everyone is different and everyone has their own path. I will challenge myself to place myself within this score range and push towards your 7, to a 7.1. Thank you for allowing me to post. I feel better having unloaded in writing. Take Care.

    • Steve says:

      Eli,
      Thanks for your comments. Now take all that fire that burns within you and make your dreams happen. You’ve given back to society and done well. Maybe it’s time for you to throw caution and safety to the wind and make it happen. The passion in your writing inspired me. I hope you’ll continue to share your thoughts with our MT community. Go for it, Eli. You can do it!!!

  3. Michael says:

    Steve, Spot On! I am operating at near a 7 every day but there are days when I slip to a 5 or 6. It’s all about being mentally tough. I call it emotional resilience. I have always been very competitive and driven. I think knocking on doors for 15 years in a row built up my emotional resilience even more. Thanks for your inspiration!

  4. Victor says:

    Steve,

    Awesome! It’s 10:30 PM and you got me pumped up to go! I feel like a 7! I can’t wait to do your Gove Speech workshop. It won’t be this year, but I know I will be in Chicago for it soon enough. I can feel it. I know it. Reading your 177 Mental Toughness Secrets book made me feel like I got a new pair of eyes to view the world through. It’s a life changer! I know I will accomplish my wildest dreams and accomplish my most ambitious goals. It’s a matter of when, and not if. Thanks for the great boost tonight! Rock on!

    -Victor

  5. Very inspiring post Steve. You’re getting stronger my friend.

  6. Solid 7, Steve – TigerMike:) You can’t just say it though as if it were a positive affirmation waiting to prove itself – that’s a failure waiting to happen. You’ve got to back it up – whether you rate yourself 3 or 5 or 7 you’ve got to back it up. Why do you say it? How can you prove it?

    Every day my life revolves around my business and my business is my life. When we take a so called vacation – really just a change of places to be for a while to influence ourselves in different ways and get away for a while – my business comes with me.

    I don’t understand why anyone would want to take a break from their business. I understand it only if it means “because I really am not in love with my business.”

    Neither do I at this time in my life connect with your term “mental toughness” meaning what? Analogy: people praise me for doing a couple hours of exercise in the morning every morning with few exceptions. They say things like “discipline” and “focus” and “commitment” and all that’s true. But. The but is: it no longer feels like any of that. I just do.

    When your life vision is integrated in everything you do and your actions allign and integrate, mental toughness becomes a momentum. It becomes a way of life.

    When I feel an occasional nudge of mental toughness challenging me it’s when discouragement or loss or something unwanted happens – that’s the closest I feel something I’d call mental toughness poking me telling me to apply myself more. And I do.

    Thoughts?

    Mike

  7. Daphne says:

    I’m about a 5 and inching slowly upward. I have a lot of challenges coming and if I want what I want I have no choice –If it is going to be, it is up to me.

  8. JT DeBolt says:

    Love this message, Steve. Love it.

    If I’m being honest, I’m at about a 6 daily. Some days I tap 7 on the shoulder, and occasionally 5 looks at me through the mirror, but mostly (if I’m being honest) I’m around a 6. The thing about life is that it ebbs and flows like the tides. I love this message because it can be easy to get lulled into a state of unconscious operation, where we unknowingly allow fear to take residence in our minds. Staying aware and focused on our own mental state is critical for playing at our optimum level.

    Thanks for a great message, Steve!
    ~JT

  9. Hi Steve,

    Great to “see” you.

    “Unwavering intention combined with daily action is more powerful than fear.”

    That statement is a fact and a truth… depending on who you are. NFL quarterback Tom Brady is a living example of the power of intention and action.

    I’m a 6.3.

    With much love to you and Dawn,

    Jaroslav

  10. Jimmy says:

    Hi Steve,

    Your message was very timely as it helped me to make a decision to go for what I want. I am probably a 4 right now but I’m pushing past the fear towards a 7.

    Thanks

  11. When I feel fear I know I am alive, I smile and keep going…Fear for me is good, it tells me I am on the edge. I think most of he time I am a five, others would say six. Thank you Steve for short and relevant posts that hit the mark.

  12. Hey Steve!
    I must say that thanks to the workshop, the advice from both you and Dawn, the 177 MTS book, the Bill Gove tips and all you teach us in the blogs that I’d rate myself at a solid SIX. Things are coming together for me as I go after life like a heat seeking missile and I’m watching it happen. If the world does or doesn’t end, I’ll be looking for the audience I need to give a keynote speech about it and I’ll have those vignettes ready!
    See you soon!

  13. Carlos Ruiz says:

    Hey Steve! Fantastic Post! This is the 1st time Im plugging in to tis great community of mental toughness soldiers and ive enjoyed reading post from previous dates… FUN FUN FUN! I agree with you 100%

  14. Abel Espinoza says:

    This video is great! Couldn’t have come at a better time, Steve! Thanks for the great work as always–It was great to see you live back in 09′ here in Los Angeles.

  15. Bob Wolff says:

    Hi Steve,

    Your messages are the best out there. I am a five–but seven seems a reasonable goal–as a matter of fact THE ONLY GOAL.

    Thanks so much for your strong mental toughness messages. They are always right on.

    Keep ’em coming, because there is nothing like repetition and reinforcement to program us towards success.

    Best,

    Bob Wolff

  16. Thanks for the challenge to be a 7! That’s one of my two lucky numbers, but as reliable as the world ending. You encourage me to increase my confidence, and fearlessness. My rating would probably be a 5 1/2 or a 6, as I’ve discovered age increases fear. Retirement 🙂 and my dreams are now possible. . . Your message was Right on Time! To make a pun, the best of times 🙂

  17. JoAnn says:

    Thanks so much for starting up the mental toughness blog again and thanks for making this one really hit home. Honestly, I’m at a 4 right now, but I’ve made a commitment to myself to get to a 7 very soon.

    Thanks again,

    JoAnn

  18. Butch Phelps says:

    I feel I am at 5, but I am working toward a 7. I refuse top let fear mongering intimidate me. I just want to charge on.

  19. Brian says:

    Welcome to NYC again Steve!

    Thanks for the nice post, it’s worth repeating many times. The great enemy of man FEAR or False Evidence Appearing Real. As for myself I rate my level as a 4.5 but I am now committed to being as 7 at this moment and going after what I want with every once of my being, and refusing to give in to fear, but pushing through, knowing that as long as my desire doesn’t hurt anyone or myself, the Universe has my back.

    Thanks again, and keep moving foward.

    Brian

  20. JC says:

    As always you are right on. I was thinking about this myself. While I’ve mastered so much of my life, and thinking processes, there are a few areas where fear slips back in too often. It was nice to hear you and have that input to get pumped up to resolve these areas into areas of strength and no-fear!