Single Most Important Question
ByThis blog has 15,945 subscribers, among whom are some the smartest, most successful, goal-oriented people I’ve ever encountered. You can read it in the quality of their comments. Our community is group of people who know how to get what they want, which is what mental toughness is all about. In this short video post I pose what believe is the single most important question a lot of successful people fail to ask themselves and their families. It’s a question so far out of the average person’s belief system that it never crosses their mind. It never crossed my mind before I started interviewing the wealthy. I never heard this question in college, and I’ve never read it in a book. It’s a question which seems to be the exclusive domain of the super-rich, yet we can all benefit tremendously from asking it and discussing with our loved ones. The result of knowing the answer to this question is launching the mental toughness process into motion at a higher level than you’ve possibly ever experienced. The end result is living your life on your own terms, beholden to no one. Please take the time to consider this question. It could be a life changing realization. Steve Siebold ( 3:18 )
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Great post and great view in more ways than one. What a simple question that I would never have thought about putting in writing. I’ll start my weekend with a new outlook, thanks.
Good day Steve and to everyone else as well. Surprisingly, this is the same question that I’ve asked myself everyday for about a year now. It’s the same question and mental challenge I regularly present to my family, friends, and just about anyone else I’m inspired to present it to (under appropriate circumstances). I have a clear, well defined, written Vision of my life, however, I’ve found that most people stumble over the concept and may have never even given time to the thought. Today, I’m well on my journey, and now a large of my life reflects my Vision, more and more each day. I realized the best way to Lead is by example. To Empower and Inspire others to open themselves to new and unlimited possibilities, to be the best, and get better every day. Especially at the simple things, like asking a question, and being open to receiving the answer.
Steve, you are a God send. Thank you!
~BC
So true, what I appreciate each day, too. Thanks Steve and Dawn for your support.
Rick Goodfriend – Author “Creating Amazing Customer Relationships”
http://rickgoodfriend.com/
“Easy for you,difficult for me” Thanks for the inspiration and God bless
~FCS Sr.
I have a 100 Year Plan and today I stayed home to write my book. Thanks to Toastmasters I discovered “Mental toughness” and have been working toward this end. Steve: Thanks for being a true guide.
I’m also living the life I imagined and worked toward for many years but it’s an incomplete and partial picture yet to be filled in with more details. Multiplying our means is part of the picture which will give us the ability to upgrade some things, create more choice options and have greater flexibility.
I’m also on a course that includes a natural desire to study human nature and why we do what we do – I can trace it back to my teens. I can’t escape. It’s the way I think.
There’s some things I do very well and naturally I’ve never – or rarely – turned into a more public and out going vehicle to see what shape they could take. I still don’t know if I will.
One of the exercises we like to use with people is having them journal: 1. what do I want [in every aspect] 2. why do I want what I say I want [going into each why of the why and so on], 3. why don’t I really [meaning am I fooling myself or do I have any negative baggage to discard or am unwilling to deal with?], 4. and what will my life look like when I’m living that dream.
Your video blogs and TV interviews are really fun to watch because you have such a casual and laid back way about you – that appeals to me because mental toughness doesn’t have to be a hard nosed football coach or high powered AlphaCEO with a driving driving driving persona.
Attitude is almost everything and yours is one that inspires me and makes me smile.
Thanks again, Steve!
Mike
Thanks for the kind words, Mike. I’m not surprised you’re living life on your own terms. Congratulations. As you know, you’re among a tiny minority of the population who has figured this out. Great additional questions, too. I love the journaling idea. I used to recommend this to the corporate teams I speak to, and they just laughed it off. Amazing. I love the coporate teams, but it’s the entrepreneurs that seem get it best. Why do you think that is?
Good for you, Zak. Go for it! You can do it!
Easy, hard or in-between, you can do it, Frank! In the end, it will be worth the price if you get what you want. Why not go for it?
Thanks for yor comment, Rick. And thanks for the tip on Create Space. We’ve already sold several thousand books with them and we’re in the process of converting all of our printing from China to them. Hope you are doing well.
“I love the coporate teams, but it’s the entrepreneurs that seem get it best. Why do you think that is?” – Steve [referencing journaling or charting personal/group: 1. what, 2. why. 3. why not, 4. picture the future exercise]
Because the corporate team knows the agenda and feels compelled to “guess right” about what the very top players want and not be seen as contrary or contentious to those ideas – so they’re in a mind set to come up with what they think they should come up with and not venture into new thinking. I saw that over and over in public education – I could give many examples of this.
Very top contemporary visionary CEOs of corporate teams would welcome the exercise.
Entrepreneurs are by nature and experience not going to go with group think because they know innovation and adaptability is key to their survival and ultmate success and abundance.
There’s a few thoughts.
Any other thinking on this one from anyone – that’s another great topic, Steve.
Mike
Steve,
Thank you for another empowering and liberating thought. Too often we center our lives around the wishes of others and our attempts to please them. To often we center our lives around the problems in our lives and our perceived weaknesses rather than enjoying living the lives of our choosing.
Hi steve,
Your comments are so inspirational. I have always been a big thinker with big dreams. Lately a light bulb has gone off in my head, I have always thought I had too many interests and could not focus on one thing. I have just realised all my interests are in the category of creative thinking. I am and have always been a creative thinker so now I have put my self in charge of all my interests and have the control of a ring master in a circus. This is liberating that I can control the direction of my life closer to my ultumate life style.
Thanks for your coaching and reminders.
Jodie C
Thanks Steve – I watched your latest blog early on Saturday morning in my own lake side apartment – Lake Jindabyne, Snowy Mountains, Australia.
I have also just recently finished your book “How Rich People Think”, and was inspired by the thinking of the world class – I’m looking forward to putting this thinking into place in my own life and the life of my family. I might even be one of the first in Australia to finish it, and have it as part of my personal development library.
I’m working towards the “way I want to live my life” everyday, and your latest blog was a great inspiration on Saturday morning – many thanks to you.
I believe leading a world class life requires being congruent in our actions with who we really are. This honesty towards ourselves and our ambitions is what will give us the indomatible spirit, which I think is necessary.
Thanks, Dr. Hal. I agree. I think we all need to go for the life we want to live while we still have the chance.
You’re right, Mike. What we need are more visionaries who get it!
Thank you Steve. My husband and I talk about this all of the time. We are looking forward to traveling the globe with our children as I speak on stages throughout the world empowering other people liberate their lives. I recently came to really internalize the power of our intentions, the power of visualization and the power of simply asking for what I want.
Hey Steve!
You sold us the dream! Awesome!
Janette